Some life transitions that may lead to a change in sexual intimacy may be:
- After getting married
- After having a baby
- After buying a house
- Moving in with your partner
- Getting a new job
- Moving to a new city
- Taking a new medication
Some other common times that sexual intimacy and passion may dip may be:
- Experiencing a loss of a family member
- Having a miscarriage
- Infertility
- Affairs or betrayal
- Insecurity
- Mental Illness (e.g. Depression, PTSD, Alcoholism)
For many couples in a long-term relationship, the need to feel secure, relaxed, and trust is what helps couples overcome some life transitions and events that may get in the way of their sexual desire and passion.
If you have experienced a dip in your sexual intimacy and passion, I encourage you to reflect on what has been going on in your life to lead to this moment. When we are able to point out an event or life transition, it becomes easier to take the focus away from ourselves and focus on something external.
For example, instead of thinking, “he/she no longer finds me attractive” or “there must be something wrong with me,” we can think of “it has been really stressful lately after the baby was born and we need time to connect” or “I know you get flashbacks sometimes and I am here.”
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By: Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S., LMFT
I specialize in working with couples and individuals to restore their relationships by utilizing research-based therapy techniques. Feel free to look at the online services offered through Modern Wellness Counseling and check out the client portal to conveniently schedule your next appointment.